This being a sex blog I feel a slight obligation to mention Valentine’s Day which is coming up on Thursday. Valentine’s Day is a lot like your birthday or New Year’s, we tend to build it up to be this really amazing day that should be perfect and romantic. These super high expectations lead to us NEVER being able to fulfill them and a high potential for let down. We shouldn’t let a greeting card company dictate when and how we celebrate our relationships but, if you do wish to celebrate this Valentine’s day, here’s my advice. Keep your expectations low, just treat it like a regular old date night, don’t do what you feel you are supposed to because it’s Valentine’s Day, do what will be special to you and your partner. If you are planning on going out for dinner, take Dan Savage’s advice: Fuck First! Have sex and then go for dinner. So many Valentine’s Days are spoiled by going out for a heavy, rich meal and desert only to fall into a food coma and never end up having sex. Fuck first, it will ensure that you’ll have sex on Valentine’s Day and then you can make a later reservation at a restaurant for, say, 9:00 when it’s not so busy. But most of all, don’t forget to do this kind of celebration with your partners all throughout the year. This is the one day of the year where everyone is trying to be romantic…what’s special about that?