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Are Robots The Future Of Sex?

So these days with all this new fangled gadgetry and computers you wear like glasses it’s hard not to feel like we’re getting closer and closer to THE FUTURE! It looks more and more like robots are going to be a part of our lives in the coming decades and like all new technologies the first thing that they’re going to be widely utilized for is…well probably war… but the second thing will be sex. I’m serious, I genuinely think that having sex with robots will become a very mainstream practice before I die. And why not? It will be a safe and satisfying way to masturbate that will open up avenues of fantasy and role-play that require a very open, comunicative and willing “meat partner” to accomplish these days. And Besides, as the video says, tons of us already do have sex with robots, we just don’t think about it that way. That vibrator in your drawer and that flesh light that you “don’t have,” are little, rudimentary robots.

If we’re cool with having sex with disembodied robot penises and vaginas whats wrong with adding on the rest of the body? I think we can all agree that sex is much more than penis and vagina. Plus robots will make certain impossible fantasies possible. Did you know that there are some people who’s biggest fantasy is to have sex with a mythical creature like a goblin or a centaur. With robotic sexual partners they can have a “realistic” experience with the creature of their dreams, instead of having to imagine it during sex with their mundane, human partner.

I’m being quite tongue in cheek here but I seriously believe that robots could change the game for human sexuality and that robotic sexuality will have far reaching effects. Obviously some people will become obsessed with robot sex, believing that they have fallen in love with their inanimate partners and forgoing all human sexual contact, that is just going to happen no matter what. And some people (cough, religious fundamentalists) are going to condemn it as heresy and blasphemy, but some good will come from it too, I believe.

People with disabilities need sexual fulfilment too, and the sad reality is that in this day and age it is not easy for everyone with disabilities to find sexual partners. With prostitution illegal in most parts of the world and stigma around disability so great, this is, in my opinion, one of the tragedies of sexuality of our time. It’s not hard to see how robots could help in this regard. Sex workers may not be pleased, though. Robots could put a large proportion of sex workers out of business. I’m not suggesting that people will prefer robots to the real thing 100% of the time, but eventually they will become cheaper and safer than their organic counterparts.

My final point is controversial, or at least it would be if this were a conversation being had in our society today. I believe that it is possible that robots may be useful for helping people with pedophilia, who do not want to abuse children, live out their fantasies much like the centaur fetishists mentioned above. I’m sure this issue will come up if there is ever a day in which we have functional sex robots, and I’m sure the issue will be a hot one. I am not a child assault and torture apologist but there is some research to claim that pedophilia should be viewed as a sexual orientation like heterosexuality or homosexuality. If this is the case then I believe that robots may be a compassionate way of acknowledging that, without condoning real harm. I hope that in the future, if I become a more prominent writer someone doesn’t dig this up and crucify me for it. I know that this is and will continue to be a controversial idea but at this point in time, in 2013, it looks like it could be a fruitful option. Anyway, thats my rant about robots. I apologize for it’s tangential nature, it was very much an unfiltered stream of consciousness, but it’s a concept that I see endless possibility in. Until next time True Believer.

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Today Is International Day To End Violence Against Sex Workers

I live in a community that has been affected very significantly by violence against sex workers. One particular group of murders stands out as one of the worst cases of serial murder in Canada. December 17th is an important day of remembrance, regardless of your opinion on the legal status or validity of sex work.

December 17th is the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers. This event was created to call attention to crimes committed against sex workers all over the globe. Originally conceptualized by Annie Sprinkle and initiated by the Sex Workers Outreach Project USA as a memorial and vigil for the victims of the Green River Killer in Seattle Washington, the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers has empowered workers from cities around the world to come together and organize against discrimination and remember victims of violence. During the week of December 17th, sex worker rights organizations and their allies stage actions and vigils to raise awareness about violence that is commonly committed against sex workers. The assault, battery, rape and murder of sex workers must end. Existing laws prevent sex workers from reporting violence. The stigma and discrimination that is perpetuated by the prohibitionist laws has made violence against us acceptable. Please join with sex workers around the world and stand against criminalization and violence committed against our communities.

Please visit december17.org if you want to know more.

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Sex Workers Are People Too

The stereotypical idea of sex workers is that of women who are perhaps addicted to drugs, fleeing violence, in desperate need of money and/or of low socioeconomic status. It is undeniable that sex work can be a terrible, violent and exploitative trade in which the sex workers get malignantly manipulated by persons with more power than them.  Sex workers who are assaulted physically and sexually have very few rights in terms of legal action against their assaulters and the working conditions for many people in the sex trade are absolutely horrifying.

But there is an other, less visible face of sex work that is starting to become more vocal and more visible. These are the people who have chosen, of their own volition, to become sex workers.

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Sexual Surrogacy And The Sessions

Sexual surrogacy is a highly controversial form of sex therapy introduced by Masters and Johnson in which a surrogate has sex with the client as a means of helping them through their sexual dysfunction. Typically they are one part of a counselling team including a conventional therapist. It has been used as a treatment for erectile dysfunction  diseases in which sex is painful and intimacy issues to name a few.

The upcoming new film The Sessions chronicles the experience of a man, who is incapable of moving save for being pushed around on a stretcher, and his desire to loose his virginity. He accomplishes this with the aid of a sexual surrogate

I’m not exactly sure how typical a patient he would be for sexual surrogates as they deal primarily with patients who have psychological problems not physiological ones.

Dr Winters, a psychology and human sexuality professor at the University of British Columbia makes this good point about sexual surrogacy and prostitution:

One comment: After hearing from women who have done sex work, I think it’s somewhat problematic that Helen Hunt’s character draws a distinction between herself and a “prostitute,” as if what she does is more legitimate or commendable. She’s still providing sex and intimacy for money, which is nothing to be ashamed of. And if you talk to sex workers, at least the ones that aren’t survival sex workers, they’ll tell you that many of their clients work through the same sort of issues with their sex worker providers as clients would with their sex surrogates. It’s just not in the context of official therapy.

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How To Tell Your Parents You’re A Prostitute

Robin Hustle, a writer, artist, and sex worker from Chicago has written this brilliant piece for Jezebel on her coming out as a prostitute to her parents. It is a beautifully written and thoroughly enjoyable piece that is well worth a read.

There are some things we’re better off not telling our parents. Mom doesn’t need to know about your creepy obsession with Chatroulette or your predilection for Sarah Palin porn. And when it comes down to it, talking about your job is (in most cases) the most boring, soul-sucking kind of small talk there is, so it’s sort of nice when that’s off the table. But hiding your life as a sex worker from your parents doesn’t feel like acting on a need-to-know basis. It feels like lying. Deception is a shitty fact of life for a lot of sex workers, and de rigueur for plenty of people who really have nothing to hide. That’s not the kind of relationship I want to have with my family, though — and after years of stressing out about what I would do if xyz happened and my parents found out, it was actually something of a relief when they did.

Our current biases towards sex work are deep rooted and strong. It’s striking how much this sounds like the coming out story of a queer person to her conservative parents.

Allowing my own anger to come through, insisting that he work toward a different understanding, affected my dad much more than any cautious explanation of my work ever had: a week later, he asked me to put together a reading list of essays by and about sex workers. While they may never be completely comfortable with my job, it’s a fine place to start.


I am fortunate that my family hasn’t disowned me or physically harmed me or reacted in any other number of physically and emotionally violent ways to learning that I’m a sex worker, but I shouldn’t be expected to be grateful for that. No one should. I am grateful that this is something I learned from them.

Via Jezebel

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Is Stripping An Art Form? NY Highest Court Has To Decide

The Attorney General of New York has to decide weather strip clubs are exempt from certain taxes that other performance art centers are. Is stripping an art in the same way that ballet or theater are? New York strip club Nite Moves, which owes an 8% sales tax on admissions certainly thinks so.

Nite Moves claims the dances are exempt under state tax law as “live dramatic or musical arts performances,” which applies to theater and ballet, the AP reports.

The Attorney General’s office thinks that because of some stripper’s lack of formal training they are not engaging in a legitimate art form.

“Under their code,” he argues, “Eric Clapton, who didn’t go to school to learn guitar, his performances would be taxable.”

Seems legit.

Via USA Today

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